... what we do before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage. Before marriage we are carried along by the force of the in-love obsession. After marriage, we revert to being the people we were before we "fell in love."
'My spouse's criticisms about my behaviour provide me with the clearest clue to he primary love language. People trend to criticise their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need. Their criticism is an ineffective way of pleading for love.'