1. Pre-conflict. The idea here is to inoculate the church against conflict. A part of this will involve regular teaching on themes such as forgiveness and unity. Douglas highlighted that insecurities in the pastor can be a trigger for conflict. There is a need to be slow to take offence. There is a need to foster a positive attitudes rather than negative attitudes. If someone is obsessed with trivia it may reveal a problem with their heart. Create a culture of authentic affirmation.
Douglas points a study that about 85% of the people in churches are steady types (S on a DISC test, can be referred to as 'golden-retriever' types). Steady types are very loyal. But that means they don't like change. We have to figure out how to convince them of the need to change.
A while back I gave some quotes from Keller on marriage.
Douglas points a study that about 85% of the people in churches are steady types (S on a DISC test, can be referred to as 'golden-retriever' types). Steady types are very loyal. But that means they don't like change. We have to figure out how to convince them of the need to change.
A while back I gave some quotes from Keller on marriage.
'One of the most basic skills in marriage is the ability to tell the straight, unvarnished truth about what your spouse has done - and then, completely, unself-righteously, and joyously express forgiveness without a shred of superiority, without making the person feel small. This does not mean you cannot express anger. In fact, if you never express anger, your truth-telling probably won't sink in. But forgiving grace must always be present, and if it is, it will, like salt in meat, keep your anger from going bad ...'
Questions I asked others in the group:
Do people find that those people who are most sensitive to being offended tend also to be those who are insensitive and offend others? Yes.
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